I’m writing this post right after meeting with our realtor to discuss the steps we need to take to sell our house.
Yes, we are considering moving to a little larger home with, more importantly, a larger yard for our three active boys.
Our house that we’d be selling is our first house, our “starter home”. We moved in 6 years ago, barely adults ourselves, with one toddler and 2 more quickly added. We’ve made tons of invaluable memories in this house. This home is where our lives really began. Where we grew up, matured, learned what it means to be responsible, learned how to be a parent, and learned more about each other. We’ve grown.
It might seem contradictory to what I’ve been writing about here. The truth is I struggled with that a little bit. But the reality of the matter is that we’re human. We grew, we outgrew, we will move on, everyone eventually does.
I still believe it’s important to make the best of your home, whether that’s small or big. I still believe that finding contentment, NO MATTER your circumstances, is the key. I spent 6 years in this house doing just that, and I know many people who spent much longer making peace with their current living situation. Just because we might be moving on, if all the stars align, doesn’t change the message behind my story.
So as I’m writing this post, as we’re contemplating selling our first house, I’m reminded of this:
The next house won’t fix it.
While it might seem like it will be the end of all my problems, the truth of the matter is there will always be something. It might move on to bigger things, or even more petty things, but there will always be things. After all, this is life.
My struggle with contentment is not about the house I live in. It’s about my state of mind. It’s about my heart. If my current mindset is full of thanksgiving for what we do have – be it big or small, a lot or a little – then, and only then, will I find peace.
Do you need this reminder, too?
The next house won’t magically place more money in your bank account.
The next house won’t soothe your anxieties, fears, or worries.
The next house won’t bring you peace.
The next house won’t provide a miracle.
The next house won’t change your heart.
The next house won’t fix your marital problems.
The next house won’t change your child’s behavior.
The next house won’t help you live longer.
The next house won’t bring you a bunch of fabulous friends.
The next house won’t award you with that promotion you’ve always wanted.
The next house won’t take away your loneliness.
The next house won’t give you the answer.
It might mean searching deep, doing some heart work, and figuring out where you stand with contentment. If subconsciously we’re hoping the next house will solve any single one of these concerns, than we better turn and run fast in the opposite direction.
Friends, the only true answer does not lie in a house. It does not lie in more money, less relationship issues, or having the perfect child. It does not lie in your loneliness. It does not lie in the miracle you’re waiting for.
No, the answer – the quick fix Band-Aid to make it all better – is not a single one of these things. No matter how badly we might want this to finally fix all our problems, the truth is it won’t.
We all have a God-sized hole we’re trying to fill. And if you’re trying to fill yours with the next thing – bigger and better – then you’re going to be waiting a very long time. You will die unfulfilled, without ever filling this void.
The only true thing to fill this contentment need, this gaping void we feel deep in our souls that we try to fix ourselves to no avail – the only thing we need is Jesus.
So take a moment wherever you are in life, and take a look around. Really take it in. Let your blessings soak deep into your soul. Allow the impact of them to wash over you. Allow yourself to be blown away by God’s grace, His mercy, His unconditional love. Allow yourself to be awestruck by all that He has done and all that He has provided.
So maybe for you it’s not the next house. Maybe it’s the next job, the next baby, or the next stage of life. Maybe it’s earning more money, or having nicer things. Maybe it’s in the waiting.
These things might take away the surface sting of life. You might even begin to think you have found your answer. They may make you feel whole for a little while.
But they won’t fix it.
The next house won’t fix it. The next (fill in the blank here) won’t fix it, either.
The only fix – the only thing that can permanently alter your heart – is the One who created us. The One that was meant to fill that void all along.
Let Jesus fix it.
Philippains 4:12-3 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all things through Him who gives me strength.
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