I have a confession to make…I am a job hopper.
Phew, okay, now that that’s out there, a little explanation might be in order.
I am a passionate person, but with this comes an indecisiveness that can drive me bonkers. This has, in turn, played out into my work life. For a variety of reasons, and at different seasons of life, I have been everything from a stay at home mom to working once a month to part-time to full time.
I know what it’s like to be on both sides of the stay-at-home/working-mom fence. I know the pros and cons to each side. I know the good ol’ mommy-guilt that accompanies both. And it’s not pretty.
So as a mom, what if you’re struggling? What if you don’t know where God wants you, and staying home isn’t what you thought it would be? Or what if the thought of leaving your children with someone else to head to work one more day is tearing you apart inside, leaving you feeling empty and raw?
How can this be God’s plan?
Simply put, the word “ministry” means “acts of service”. If you’re a Christian, it means “building up the body of Christ”. (Ephesians 4:11-12)
Ministry means that in whatever you do “work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters” (Colossians 4:18 NIV)
So to the stay at home mom struggling with this guilt, feeling like she’s not doing enough, being enough, working enough, volunteering enough, making enough money…
Maybe you’re struggling with staying home, like I was. Maybe you’re feeling trapped and anxious…stuck. Maybe, while you couldn’t imagine not being with your precious children, you can’t help but have days where you want to pull your hair out, where you’re resentful of your husband who gets to leave for work every morning.
I have a thought.
What if, at this season of your life, staying home with your children is your ministry? What if it’s right where God wants you to be?
And to the working mom, genuinely struggling with a different kind of guilt – the pain of dropping your babies off to be with someone else all day long. Hurting inside as you drive to a job where all you can think about for every minute is the intense desire to be able to stay home with your precious kiddos.
I have something to tell you…
I’ve been there.
That mom that you always pass on the way to drop your child off at preschool – she’s been there. The woman sitting in the desk beside you at work – she’s there right now. Your friend who seemingly has it all together? Yeah, she’s been there, too.
What if we’re all exactly where we’re meant to be – wherever that may be?
Whether working or staying home, part-time, full-time, in-between time…maybe our ministry is right here.
My children. My precious babies with those big eyes looking up at me, watching and listening, absorbing and hanging on everything I say and everything I do.
Maybe my work is to be the best example of Christ that I can be – for them.
Maybe my ministry is doing all that I can, with every fiber of my being, to make sure they grow up knowing the Lord.
Maybe God has me here wanting me to be as involved in their lives as I can be. To encourage my boys daily to pursue their Godly gifts and talents. To raise up strong, Godly men with a passion for Christ.
And that mom you work with? The one that’s worn down, stressed out, and barely hanging on day after ever-loving day. Maybe your ministry is reaching out to her, being a listening ear, offering an encouraging word. Saying “me, too”.
Maybe your ministry is to be a light in a dark work place. Where others might look at you and think – or even say – where does her hope come from?
Maybe your ministry is to begin planting a seed in the lives of those you interact with at work on a daily basis – to offer Jesus and hope, because if not you, who will?
Because while I definitely don’t have all the answers, I do know one thing. Jesus did not only come to preach. His time on earth was filled with a variety of tasks – in service to others; to feed, to serve, and to heal.
So for now, while I may once again be feeling the need to be home full time, I’m going to remember that God has me where I am for a purpose.
He’s surrounded me with the people in my life for a reason. When it’s my children, then I’m to love them, teach them, and encourage them to grow, giving them one hundred percent.
When it’s my co-workers, then I’m going to live out His example every day to the best of my ability.
So what if our ministry is right where we are? What if, at this season, we are exactly where we’re meant to be? Whether holding down a full time job, a part time gig, or being a full time stay at home mom, I know without a doubt God has a plan for each and every one of us.
And I can’t wait to hear him say, “Well done, good and faithful servant” (Matt 25:23 NIV).
Have you ever dealt with the mom-guilt, whether working or staying home?
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